The Decision: Back to the 5-Fs [Sorry, a tad long]


A few posts ago, I talked about a ‘decision’ that was made. Here is the little story for those who care to read:

When I was about 20yr and had just completed CEGEP, I felt aimless. How to know what to do next in life, which path to choose, what degree (or not) to do – and when? We’re supposed to decide who we’re going to be before an application deadline approaches, and that was scary stuff.

Flipping back and forth between choices, I finally sat down one day and made a crucial choice in my life: to decide! Regardless of what I decided, the worst thing I figured I could do was not choose. I basically stood in front of a mirror, looking forward and seeing myself 2, 5, 10 and 20 years from now – visualizing who I would be if I continued down the current path. Would I be happy? Fulfilled? Or depressed and a typical Joe-Average? Then I re-did the same thing backwards, this time with no restrictions on what the perfect life would be for me. If I could do or be anything in the world, how would it look? How would I *feel*?

Believe it or not, I spent a long time that afternoon on this, and the excitement of who one could become turned into the realization that if we simply decided then and there what we wanted, and wouldn’t accept anything less, then the odds are in your favour. I’d rather attempt life at full force, and fail, then living a life of mediocrity. At least I could look back knowing I tried!

That day when I was 20 I created a little checklist I called “The 5-Fs”. They stood for: ‘Fitness’, ‘Future’, ‘Far Away’, ‘Finances’, and ‘Fear'”. I made it a rule that everyday, I had to do something (no matter how small) in each of those areas. In addition to that, I had to focus on one main one for each stage in my life. ‘Fitness’ became me doing martial arts full-time – 6-days a week and for about 3 years until I achieved the level I wanted. ‘Future’ was doing that Engineering degree. Coupled in there was ‘Far Away’ (which basically meant ‘Travel’, but had to start with an F right? ;)) – and I did the exchange in France. Finally, ‘Finances’, and the job I’m at now is definitely setting that goal in motion…

And ‘Fear’? I had to do one thing every single year that I was deathly afraid of. The first year I Skydived. Another year I stayed in Egypt even though the suicide attacks took place at the town we were headed to in 2 days. This year I headed out to Toronto all alone, not sure what it would mean to my personal life…

It’s been an amazing ride since that day about 8 years ago. I’ve reached brown-belt status in the mixed-martial art, I’ve completed my Bachelor’s in Civil Engineering, I’ve lived overseas for a full year and had the good fortune to have visited over 15 countries in that time period, and recently I’ve gotten a financially rewarding job that is actually good fun to show up to!

In the midst of all this, with all the main goals in sight, I’ve met some amazing people from all over the world. I’ve even been fortunate enough to have one of the greatest relationships with someone I never expected – and taught me a lot. Above everything, I learnt then that the best moments in life are not planned. Also, as amazing as something may be, and as much as we work hard to get it or to try and keep it, some things are just out of our control – and you have to release and let whatever happens happen. If you notice, there could easily be a 6th ‘F’ for ‘Female’, but that never comes into planning. I have a romantic side and I still believe that life in that area will unfold as it should, one way or another.

Today, this week, everything seems open and whole again. The ‘decision’ was to get back on track with the 5-Fs.

I hope everyone takes chances in life and follows their dreams, as we only get 1 shot at this world!

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